Sayonara 2020… and that’s all I’ll say on that. Let’s give a warm welcome to 2021 and all of its endless possibilities!
We’ll get right to the good stuff, let’s talk resolutions. In an article written by Justin Conklin, for Forbes Magazine (2018), he explains that ”Eighty percent of us will fail within 30 days. With only 8% of resolution makers actually seeing follow through, more often than not making a resolution will result in frustration and a sense of defeat.”
One of the main reasons New Years’ Resolutions fail is a result of individuals lacking true motivation and a strong Why. “Holiday remorse” is not a deep enough form of motivation and rather leads to absurd and rash “new year new me” goals and attitudes. This then leads to a crash & burn and a feeling of defeat.
So, what is Holiday Remorse? The holidays are a time for celebrations and gatherings. While these celebrations may have been more distanced than usual (literally), most of us were still able to celebrate in one way or another. When we look back at those times of celebration, we often see and hear people working out less, eating more, and sleeping more. We quickly criticize our actions and beat ourselves up. If you haven’t been reminded yet, if you were having fun during the holidays, there is no need to turn those good times into negative memories.
How can we avoid Holiday Remorse? Start to become more aware of your thoughts, identify when you find yourself focusing on the negatives (ex. the things that went wrong or weren’t up to your expectations), and start to challenge yourself to focus only on the positive experiences, the things that went right! Easier said than done, I get it. Trust me, making this mindset shift is not always simple but it’s a great start to transforming your life. Once we start to appreciate our experiences more, and focus primarily on the positives, we avoid remorse, or even better, Holiday Remorse.
Now that we have gotten that out of the way, the next question is: How do we set proper and achievable goals? MY number one tip is having a clear “Why”. You can find more information on how to find your “Why” by reading my previous blog post, “Finding YOUR WHY”. The second tip to success, when it comes to New Years Resolutions, is to focus on one thing at a time. Too much change at once can be very overwhelming, physically and emotionally. If we try to do too much, we are more likely to discredit our wins and instead fall off the wagon.
A theory discovered by Dr. Maxwell Maltz explores the idea that it takes 21 days to break or create a habit, but 90 days to make it a true lifestyle change. In James Clear’s blog post, How Long Does it Actually Take to Form a New Habit? (Backed by Science) he explains,”Maltz wrote about these experiences and said, “These, and many other commonly observed phenomena tend to show that it requires a minimum of about 21 days for an old mental image to dissolve and a new one to jell.”
The best thing you can do is just start! Start by taking small, yet meaningful and intentional, steps towards your goals. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to be perfect during the process. Goals should be treated like a marathon; It’s all about pacing yourself, not trying to sprint the entire race.
2020 was meant to be the year where we did it all, but instead it became the year where we found a greater appreciation for all that we have. Going into 2021, I encourage you to continue appreciating what you have and to be proud of all the growth you’ve made during a time of such uncertainty.
To help us achieve our new goals, YoFiT is starting the year off with our annual New Years’ challenge. This year, YoFiT challenges YOU to “Say Hello to 2021 & Goodbye to Bad Habits”. Starting January 11th 2021, we will say goodbye to our worst habit (one that is sabotaging us from achieving greatness), while taking 25 classes in 30 days! Stay tuned and follow us on Facebook & Instagram for more updates and prizes!
With love and light,