Happy early Valentines Day YoFiT fam!
This February let’s not forget to love ourselves as much as we love our people ♡
It is much easier to give love to others, but it can be challenging to provide the same unconditional love and support for ourselves. While we are our biggest critics, we are also our biggest motivator. The hard truth is that no one is responsible for looking after you, we must be confident and secure in our own skin. We cannot depend on others’ validation in order to feel appreciated and needed, it must come from ourselves. When we blame our negative or positive feelings and mindset on the presence or absence of another, we will never truly be satisfied.
What many of us don’t realize is that we are only pretending to ‘take care’ of ourselves. We are creating low standards for ourselves and our ability to create happiness within. As a result, our so-called “self care” or “self love” is on a timer. It will eventually expire and we will go back to relying on others to decide our happiness. We will continue to stay in a negative rut until we receive that missing validation from others. When you are feeling low, you have to be able to pull yourself out. No one is able to lift your spirits the way you can do for yourself. It’s not an easy task, but it is a necessary trait we must learn to have.
Here’s the thing, you cannot have self care without self love. I believe they are one in the same. When you begin to take the extra step of truly caring and loving yourself, you have a greater understanding that you are capable and deserving of more.
Mentality is everything. We do not always realize how much our minds are prone to suggestion. Some mornings you fall out of bed completely exhausted, or maybe you go to check your phone and realize that the charger wasn’t plugged in to the outlet. Ever notice that when mornings start off this way, your whole day seems to stay the same? A dull day that just seems to get worse, a day that feels like nothing good is happening.
In the reverse…
Some mornings you wake up before your alarm. You are feeling energized and well-rested, maybe you are even feeling so good that you worry you might have slept through your alarm. You check the time and realize you actually woke up twenty minutes early. You are able to cruise through your morning, getting ready with seemingly no effort. No matter what happens the rest of the day, you keep your head up and treat it like any other day, it just seems a little easier.
It’s all in the mindset! You can’t always control what happens to you but you can control how you react to it.
You get to choose to take care of & love yourself. You can do it! It is okay to be selfish and put yourself first. Your heart deserves to be loved by you and your body deserves to be treated well. It’s up to you to find out what makes you happy. Discover what resonates with you and what doesn’t. There’s no room in 2021 for anything that does not serve us!
Self care is not the same for everyone. Just like anything else, what works for you or what you need will not be the same as your neighbor. The idea of self care is broad and can be identified differently by any of us. However, for those that don’t know where to start, here are a few forms of self care from the Brain & Behavior Foundation.
- Talking to and about yourself with love
- Prioritizing yourself
- Giving yourself a break from self-judgement
- Trusting yourself
- Being true to yourself
- Being nice to yourself
- Setting healthy boundaries
- Forgiving yourself when you aren’t being true or nice to yourself
- Listen to our bodies
- Take breaks from work and move/stretch.
- Put the phone down and connect to yourself or others, or do something creative.
- Eating healthily, but sometimes indulge in your favorite foods.
I know that you are capable of giving yourself the love and care you need and deserve. Hopefully now you know how to do it and why it’s so necessary. Be your own Valentine this year and show up for yourself when no one else can. I believe in you.
With Love & Light,